Do Genetics Rule?

Like so many others have done, do now, and will do when they search for their identity, I was looking for my core sense of who I was. Is one’s identity tied inexorably to his or her genetics and genealogy? Are we destined to be the product of our ancestors’ genetics and parenting styles? Can we rise above bad parental examples? I come from Polish and Indian roots. My family was deeply broken and full of pain. And, had I not met and married Mark Shick, who introduced me to my Savior and Lord, Jesus Christ, I suspect I would…

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The Real Attack

Job seemed to have an established, solid identity: blameless, upright, God-fearing, wealthy man. For a time, Satan stole that identity from him. But Job’s identity—and his wealth—was restored when he came to fully understand God’s identity as the sovereign creator and judge. But something much bigger was going on in Satan’s attack on Job. Satan was actually attacking God. Essentially, Satan accused God of bribing people to obey and follow Him Satan often still does the same thing when he attacks us—he attacks God through us. When we think of an enemy, we often look at another person. But remember,…

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He Created Them

The Bible tells us God created the world and everything in it, including humans; the Bible reveals both human sin and every person’s need of a savior from sin. The Bible also plainly states God created just two genders: “When God created mankind, he made them in the likeness of God. He created them male and female and blessed them” (Genesis 5:1-2). When a person claims to be of a third gender (or of the gender opposite of his or her birth), then we can be certain that demonic forces are behind that person’s confusion. Those demonic forces are attempting to…

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Finding Comfort

Everyone is on a journey of self-discovery. For me, that journey involved a period of crossdressing—and also in finding comfort in God’s deep love. The first incident I can recall of moving in the direction of crossdressing was at about age 8, when I painted my face, as if I were a woman wearing makeup. A bit later, at a scout pageant celebrating knights of old, we wore outfits that looked like dresses. I wore mine again at home, and when I did it felt more like a dress to me. Following that episode, for several years, I secretly wore…

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How Do You Pray?

Have you ever admitted to God, “I’m done. There’s nothing left of me”? What can we do? The Word of God directs us to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Yet we often forget to pray consistently, passionately. In fact, we may pray only when we feel desperate or hopeless. How can we move toward more meaningful, intimate conversations with God? First, avoid “meaningless repetition” and “empty phrases” (Matthew 6:7). Anyone can fall into this trap. Instead of repeating words and phrases that sound spiritual, use honest, sincere words that reflect your actual feelings. God cares about your heart, your…

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Childhood hurts are not forgotten

H4F Blog Childhood hurts are not forgotten How important is the influence of each parent to the overall health of a developing child? Molly, a former female to male transgender, wrote, “I really believed that somehow my parents divorce was my fault, that if I had been the son my father wanted, he would not have left. I knew at a very young age that the only name chosen prior to my birth had been a boy’s name.” John White in his book Eros Redeemed states that tour gender identity has to do with our sense or perception of our…

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Heath’s Journey

Even as a child I suspected something was different about my dad—and not only because he was so distant from my siblings and me. He seemed to be unable relate to children, and he had no idea how to express love to any of us. Even when he was physically nearby, he wasn’t really there. Sometimes I longed for a dad—a real one who would want to spend time with me. I couldn’t understand why we kids had to be like statues—never allowed to show joy or happiness.         As a young teenager, I wanted to find a replacement for…

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Peace Has Come

In a perfect world, Christmas is a time to of happiness, peace, and smiles as everyone celebrates the birth of Jesus Christ. But we don’t live in a perfect world. Problems exist, hearts are heavy, and the struggle can be painful for families of LGBT loved ones. We can allow the emotional and mental challenges of the holidays to plunge us into despair, or we can stand confident in Jesus’ promise: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle…

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Have You Ever Felt Hopeless?

Many times families feel desperate and hopeless. I empathize with what they are muddling through when a loved one identifies as a homosexual. Hopelessness appears to be swallowing them up in their despair. Joy and Rob felt that way. They were barely able to sleep at night after their daughter declared she was “gay.” Joy asked me, “Is there hope?” I replied, “Oh yes!” We talked about one of the tools Satan uses against family members when the earthquake of a loved one living out of the will of God rocks their world. Satan uses alienation to make us feel…

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