Embracing Masculinity in a Changing Society

I was waiting to board a flight when I noticed two young men that appeared to be a couple. One of the men appeared to be approximately 18 to 20 years old. He had a dark complication, black hair, and brown eyes. But perhaps most noticeable about him was the strong feminine body language he displayed. He gracefully moved his hand toward his boyfriend’s face in the exact manner that a woman would slide her hand gently over her male partner’s face.

His partner was a handsome 25-year-old man. His appearance was such that a mother might pick him out of a crowd as potential husband material for her daughter. He was tall, with blue eyes, blonde hair, and a neatly trimmed beard and mustache. He placed his hand over his partner’s shoulder as they smiled at each other.   

When I located my seat on the plane, I discovered that the masculine partner would be sitting next to me during the flight. We had a pleasant conversation as he shared his love for the children he instructs as a music teacher in an elementary school. Later in the conversation he spoke of the time he spent with his family.Then he said that “we”—that is, he and his male “fiancée”—had gone home so that his family could meet him. He spoke of their relationship with no hint of secrecy. And why not? Society has widely accepted same-sex relationships, “gay marriage”, and gender reversal surgeries as perfectly “normal”.

Sadly, young men are fleeing from masculinity instead of embracing their true identity. Our society no longer embraces or encourages traditional gender roles. Many men are aimlessly trying to discover, on their own, what it actually means to be a man. Many men are not confident in knowing how to embrace their masculinity because they have been wounded emotionally and/or sexually, peer and society pressure, or a result of deep scars of rejections.