Gender Identity Dysphoria (GID or gender confusion) causes a person to become uncomfortable in their actual born gender. GID can be caused by a variety of reasons, including: low self-esteem, seeking same sex per acceptance, distant same sex parent, sexual/physical/verbal abuse, personality or obsessive disorder, etc. GID is not a one size fits all mentality.
If a person continually says and believe they were born to be the opposite gender, they distort the truth in their own mind. Even children are self-diagnosing themselves and telling their parents that they are the opposite gender of which they were born. Special interest groups support the erroneous conclusion that the child has made and says, “there is no evidence that any influence, biological or social, will inevitably create a transgender person.” (–)
Therefore the boy must have been a born the wrong gender because his mind does not match his genitals, correct? Wrong! No scientific study has proven GID to be ‘inborn.’ The same holds true with homosexuality. (–)
Some may argue that a GID brain differs from those without GID. There might be truth there, “but not because of innateness. The altered brain’s microstructure is probably due to years of repetitive thinking, fantasy and preoccupation with the body.” (–)
Attachment is a vital part of promoting a healthy bond between you and your child. Your child needs adequate attachment and integration for healthy brain development.” (–)
It takes time for a child to grow up confident in their gender. Parental support is vital. Remember, you investing in the life of your child. Continually build your child’s emotional bank. Practice attentiveness; do not become too busy for your children, but spend quality time together. The more you invest the greater the return will be. Your child is the greatest investment you will ever make in your life and in the life of another human being!
If you have noticed some signs of GID, or know that your child struggles with their gender, it s not too late to make a difference! Children can learn to correct their cognitive distortions in regards to their gender. Promote a healthy appreciation of a child’s born gender and a healthy environment with peers of the same sex. Your children need your love, encouragement, attention and a relationship with you!
Provide a safe, open environment for children to discuss their feelings and ask questions. Invest more time in strengthening the parent-child relationship. Affirm their unique personality, praise their talents, and be engaged in their interests. Promote a healthy appreciation of their birth gender and help them cultivate healthy same-sex friendships. Teach the truth about gender, identity, and family as revealed in the Bible
For Boys: Increase quality time for the bonding that is needed for the father-son relationship. If the father is absence for any amount of reasons, seek out a trusted family member or close friend, such as a grandfather, uncle or a trusted male of your church community.
For Girls: Increase the quality time the mother spends with the daughter. Offer parental praises of your daughter as a female. Encourage same sex friendships and activities of her same sex peers. If a mother is absent, seek out a trusted family member, or trusted woman who could mentor the daughter.
Be encouraging to your children of their uniqueness and giftings each one was. You can offer your praises of your child by saying, “Way To Go, Your Special, You Got This, You’re Fantastic, Sensational, Important, You’re On Top Of It, What a Good Listener You Are, I Respect You, You’re a Treasure, You Are a Caring Person, Great Discovery, You Tried So Hard, I Trust You, You’re A Good Friend, You are Responsible or Terrific.
Recommended Readings: The Boy Who Liked Tea Parties, I’m Glad God Made Me a Girl, Do Super Heroes Play the Piano? Amazing Amanda and I Want My Sister Back.
