I have often heard men confess that they have thoughts that something was wrong with them, that they should have been born female. If they hear the thoughts and whispers often enough, they begin to believe them, especially when the lies have haunted them since their childhood. Consider this: When an adult male says he remembered “feeling this way”—that he was supposed to have been born female—since he was young, he might be telling the truth. He might not remember a time when he did not feel “this way.” That doesn’t mean, however, he was born that way. It likely means that he’s heard the thoughts and suggestions for as long as he can remember.
Joseph Goebbels, said, “If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.” If a male repeatedly hears the lie that he was meant to be a woman, eventually he will believe it—and be likely to act on it. The same is true of a female who repeatedly hears—in her thoughts or from others—that she was meant to be a man.
Some men are running from feelings of depression, relational problems, drug or alcohol addictions, suicidal tendencies, and other psychotic issues. These men are abandoning their masculinity and their traditional role because they are weary from battling their thought life and society’s celebration of non-traditional attitudes and behaviors. Some really don’t understand why they struggle with thoughts that encourage them to make decisions that dramatically alter their lives.
Leonard’s impulses to cross dress and fantasies of becoming a woman have become problematic for him. Leonard wants to understand the root issue for his behavior. In addition to seeing a therapist, he also has a support system. No matter how fearful reality may be; he will finally come to an understand his behavior and mindset. Leonard believes that discovering the factors which underlies his conditio1n is necessary in order to help him move forward.
Gender Affirmation Surgery (previous known as sex reassignment surgery or sex change surgery) changes only the outside, the “shell.” The person’s genetic structure remains the same as it was before the surgery and hormone treatments. Inside, a male person remains a male person, likewise a female remains a female. Lying to oneself or others does not make the belief true. Truth awaits those seeking it, and it is through truth one is set free from the lies once believed. “So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31-32