In your journey you must learn to trust the Lord with all your heart. When you take your eyes off Jesus, you start to trust your own actions. But only God can handle this. Do not be wise in your own eyes (Proverbs 3:7 NIV).

Who are you? Yes, your loved one has a broken view of his or her sexual identity, but it is equally important to know who you are, and who God says you are in Him. In Acts 15, the apostle James said, “Simon has described to us how God first intervened to choose a people for his name from the Gentiles. The words of the prophets are in agreement with this, as it is written: ‘After this I will return and rebuild David’s fallen tent. Its ruins I will rebuild’” (vv. 14-16 NIV).

God will work within you to bring the restoration you seek. Does this happen instantly? More than likely, no. Your healing will come, but it will be a process, as you must face reality to deal with your true feelings and hurts. The hurt you feel is deep; the journey is difficult. God has a work to do within you, not just within your loved one. Colossians 2:10 says, And in Him you have been made complete (NASB).

            We have help in heart-wrenching times like this. Scripture reminds us that the Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble (Psalm 9:9 NIV). Though you may feel alone, with nowhere to run, remember that the name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe (Proverbs 18:10 NIV).

            Remember, God has not left you!